12 Things You Should Never Say to Someone Trying to Lose Weight…

12 Things You Should Never Say to Someone Trying to Lose Weight…

Shed these shame-filled statements.

It’s been said that “one is the loneliest number.” But could it be the healthiest, especially when it comes to trying to reach your weight-loss goals? Well, it depends, according to research and the experts we spoke to. One thing is certain though: there are just some things that should never be said to someone who is trying to lose weight, so perhaps keeping your weight-loss plans to yourself isn’t necessarily a bad thing to avoid getting that dreaded weight loss “advice” or feedback you didn’t really ask for.

See, those who have healthy eating and activity support from friends and co-workers lose more weight and keep it off, research in the journal Obesity found—and the opposite is also true (less support and undermining weight-loss strategies leads to more pounds).

“While you might expect friends and family to be totally supportive, it’s not always the case. In fact, I have advised some of my clients to avoid sharing their weight loss intentions with others as they can, in some instances, sabotage them: Bringing treats around, telling them to loosen up and ‘live a little,’ or exhibiting jealousy, which hurts,” says nutritionist Rania Batayneh, M.P.H., the owner of Essential Nutrition For You and the author of The One One One Diet.

If you’re trying to lose weight, what statements should you recognize as shamey or sabotage? And if someone you know is trying to lose weight, what should you never say? From seemingly innocent statements to backhanded compliments to the outright rude, we rounded up all the things you shouldn’t say to someone who is trying to lose weight, according to experts.

“Have you tried the _______ diet? it worked for me.”

Say “ciao” to crash diets, especially when this advice is coming from others, as every person’s weight-loss strategy is different. But one thing is for sure: fad diets aren’t ever a good idea.

“The goal is not to go on the latest fad diet. The goal is the find an approach to healthy eating and activity that can be sustained over time. Diets do not lead to permanent weight reduction without changes in habits and attitudes,” says Bob Wright, director of education at Hilton Head Health in Hilton Head Island, South Carolina.

“You were fine.”

It’s crucial to “avoid statements that doubt the person’s capability to get and stay healthy and avoid implying they will be worse off in any way than when they started,” says Jillian Michaels, a health, wellness, and fitness expert and the creator of the My Fitness by Jillian Michaels app. And this is coming from someone who’s been very public about her health journey—and who has helped some of The Biggest Losers in America.

“Can’t you just be happy at the weight you are at?”

Similarly, this seems like it could be a sort-of compliment, but it’s simply harmful.

“While this may seem like your friend is telling you that you are ‘fine’ the way you are, there is also this tone of ‘Just stop all of this!’ or ‘Why do you keep trying?’ If your friend feels comfortable enough to tell you that they are excited to lose weight but feel it can be challenging to stay consistent, they are probably looking for support, not questioning your intentions,” Batayneh says.

“You look great have you lost weight?”

Wait, haven’t I always looked great?

“This suggests that your friend looked bad before,” Wright says. “Also, there is a chance they haven’t lost weight, and then it would suggest that they need to.”

“Oh, I tried that and it didn’t work for me.”

Think of each weight loss mission like snowflakes: No two are alike.

“Your experiences are unique,” Batayneh says. “For example, perhaps your friend eats healthier carbs rather than eliminating them entirely.” So even if something didn’t work for you, it might for someone else, and it’s not really fair to compare your experiences to someone else who is trying out something new.

“Are you allowed to eat that?”

Nothing needs to be off-limits, and the tone of this question is just very harsh and unnecessary.

“This question is very judgmental; in fact, anyone is allowed to eat what they want! Comments like this often backfire, and their response might be to eat even more than they planned, due to an ‘I’ll show you’ attitude,” Wright says.

“Well now you won’t be fun anymore.”

This is exactly the opposite message you want to send a pal who’s dropping pounds, Michaels clarifies.

“This is discouraging and implies the person will be worse off once they’ve lost the weight,” she says. “Just compliment them. ‘You are so inspiring’ works well. It’s really simple. Compliment their health and their efforts.”

“I can’t really tell that you have lost weight.”

“Can’t.” “Won’t.” Noticing a common theme of negativity here?

“When someone is on a weight loss journey, they feel changes greater than what they see on the scale. Your friend, co-worker, or sibling may have more stable energy, less cravings, or sleep better. If you are negative toward then, this may derail them,” Batayneh says.

Instead, remember to just c’mon, get happy.

“In my practice, I always highlight the positives that my client is accomplishing and is consistent with. We all know when we ate too much, went off on a binge, or just ate totally off plan. It’s in the past, and we can only make better choices ahead,” she adds.

“How much weight did you lose?”

The scale results are only part of the goal, and this question puts the focus solely on weight.

“The rate of weight loss per week varies greatly from person to person. Over the long-run, weight loss is never steady and consistent. Plateaus are a part of every weight loss effort,” Wright says.

Because that’s the case, Wright and the Hilton Head Health crew encourage their guests toward a health pursuit to find non-weight ways to monitor progress. Consider inches lost, speed gained, and more.

“Weight loss is a by-product of changes in behaviors, habits, and attitudes,” he continues.

“I think you looked better heavier.”

“For some people, losing weight is this life-long dream, achievement, and accomplishment. If they have lost weight by working hard, eating right, [and] managing life and social situations, you had better believe that they are proud of themselves,” Batayneh says.

There should never be a reason to hide your hard work.

“Most of us want someone to notice the changes we have experienced physically. I know that we shouldn’t focus on the outward appearance, but when we feel good, we look good,” she says. “If you feel that your waist is smaller and your arms are toned—and you want to show off your hard work—do it!”

“Have you tried eating less?”

Not only is this uber-judgy, but it can also be inaccurate advice—and downright dangerous. Eating too few calories has been proven to cause your body to hold on to weight, plus this statement could be triggering to anyone who has a history of struggling with an eating disorder.

According to research published in the journal Perspectives on Psychological Science, extreme day-to-day calorie restriction can slow metabolism and speed up cravings. Because it’s all about the big picture, and the fact that nearly a million calories need to be consumed per person each year to survive, the scientists suggest looking at larger habits (say, incorporating activity into your day or adding more satisfying, high-protein foods to your diet) rather than counting each and every calorie at a meal.

“The strategy anyone uses to lose weight should guide, not deprive,” Batayneh says.

“You will probably gain this weight back just like you did last time you were on a diet .”

Talk about toxic.

“If someone is saying something passive aggressive, negative, or paying backhanded compliments, try not to take it personally. This is about them projecting their insecurities onto you—and it’s no reflection on you,” Michaels says.

Contributor: Karla Walsh- Eat This, Not That!

One Dose of ‘Magic Mushroom’ Drug Reduces Anxiety and Depression in Cancer Patients, Study Says

One Dose of 'Magic Mushroom' Drug Reduces Anxiety and Depression in Cancer Patients, Study Says

A single dose of psilocybin, a compound found in “magic mushrooms,” provides long-term relief of anxiety and depression in cancer patients, a new study finds.

In fact, cancer patients who were given psilocybin reported reductions in anxiety, depression, hopelessness, demoralization, and death anxiety more than four years after receiving the dose in combination with psychotherapy.

“Our findings strongly suggest that psilocybin therapy is a promising means of improving the emotional, psychological, and spiritual well-being of patients with life-threatening cancer,” said Dr. Stephen Ross, associate professor of psychiatry in the Department of Psychiatry at NYU Langone Health.

The findings build on improvements first reported by the team in 2016, in which 29 patients with cancer-related anxiety and depression were given either a single dose of psilocybin or a vitamin placebo called niacin. Seven weeks later, they were given the opposite. This was in combination with nine psychotherapy sessions. By 6½ months, after all patients had received psilocybin, about 60% to 80% showed clinically significant reductions in depression, anxiety and existential distress and and improved attitudes toward death.

Fifteen of the original participants were then followed up 3.2 and 4.5 years later and showed sustained long-term improvements, with more than 70% of them further attributing “positive life change’s to the therapy experience, rating it among ‘the most personally meaningful and spiritually significant experiences of their lives,” according to the study published Tuesday in the Journal of Psychopharmacology.

“This approach has the potential to produce a paradigm shift in the psychological and existential care of patients with cancer, especially those with terminal illness,” Ross said in a statement.

‘Magic mushroom’ drug lifted ‘cloud of doom’ for cancer patients Ross believes an alternative means of treating anxiety and depression among cancer patients is urgently needed, stating that a third of people diagnosed with cancer will developing anxiety, depression and other forms of distress.

Though his team does not fully understand how psilocybin has such effects on the mind, they previously suggested it could be because our brains have a level of neuroplasticity — the ability to adapt and change with various experiences.

“These results may shed light on how the positive effects of a single dose of psilocybin persist for so long,” said Gabby Agin-Liebes, lead investigator and lead author of the long-term follow-up study, and co-author of the 2016 parent study. “The drug seems to facilitate a deep, meaningful experience that stays with a person and can fundamentally change his or her mindset and outlook.” The study has its limitations, such as the small number of patients monitored in the latest study and its overlap with the previous trial.

“The conclusions that can be drawn are limited because the original trial was a crossover design,” says James Rucker, who leads the Psychedelic Trials Group at the Centre for Affective Disorders at Kings College London in the UK. “This means that in the original trial every participant eventually received psilocybin. Because of this, there is no control group in this current study. This means that we do not know whether the participants might have improved long term anyway, regardless of the treatment.”

The findings do, however, build on growing evidence supporting the benefits of psilocybin on mental health. “This trial provides some useful reassurance to ongoing clinical trials, particularly in treatment resistant depression,” added Rucker, who was not involved in the study.

Multiple studies to date have found benefits in using psilocybin to treat people with depression when combined with supportive therapy.

There were an estimated 18 million cases of cancer globally in 2018, according to the World Health Organization, and research has shown depression to be more common among patients with cancer than the general population.

“This could profoundly transform the psycho-oncologic care of patients with cancer, and importantly could be used in hospice settings to help terminally ill cancer patients approach death with improved emotional and spiritual well-being,” Ross said.

Contributors: Jacqueline Howard and San

Coronavirus: California Update After Second US Case Announced

Coronavirus: California Update After Second US Case Announced

In California, health screenings of incoming passengers at Los Angeles International and San Francisco International airports are underway.

As health officials around the world respond to the outbreak of the new — and potentially deadly — coronavirus, the California Department of Public Health is doing the same.

As of Friday morning, two cases of coronavirus 2019-nCoV have been confirmed in the United States, the Centers for Disease Control reported. The first case was confirmed Tuesday in the state of Washington. A second case was reported Friday in Illinois. In both, the patients had been to Wuhan, China, according to the CDC.

In California, health screenings of incoming passengers at Los Angeles International and San Francisco International airports are underway to identify people who have symptoms that could be due to coronavirus infection. The two large airports have the most arrivals into the state from Wuhan, Hubei Province, China — the region where an outbreak of the respiratory illness began last month and “continues to expand in scope and magnitude,” according to the CDC.

Los Angeles International and San Francisco International are the only California airports where coronavirus screenings are underway, a CDPH spokesman told Patch Friday morning.

Worldwide, there are more than 830 confirmed cases of infection, and at least 26 people have died. A total of 8,420 people are reported to be under observation, according to a report Friday from the Washington Post.

A traveler landing at Los Angeles International Airport was hospitalized this week after exhibiting symptoms consistent with coronavirus, Patch reported Thursday. However, as of Friday morning the CDPH told Patch it had no coronavirus cases to report in California, but screenings and tests are continuing.

Additionally, in Alameda County, which is near San Francisco International Airport, Patch reported that while health officials continue screening people, there were no confirmed coronavirus cases in that county.

“The state will continue to monitor the situation, work with partners to identify any possible cases, provide information and consultation to ensure that possible cases are managed safely, support laboratory testing, and implement recommendations from the CDC,” according to the CDPH.

While originally thought to be spreading from animal-to-person, there are growing indications that limited person-to-person spread of the virus is happening. “It’s unclear how easily this virus is spreading between people,” the CDC reported. The agency is recommending that people avoid all nonessential travel to Wuhan, China. Chinese officials have closed transport within and out of Wuhan, including buses, subways, trains, and the international airport.

Information for travelers to other parts of China is available at:


Contributor: Toni McAllister, Patch.com Banning-Beaumont, CA

Avoid These Five Risk Factors and Live Longer, Study Says…

Avoid These Five Risk Factors and Live Longer, Study Says…

How would you like to add seven to 10 healthy, disease-free years to your life as you age?

Try eliminating these five bad health habits: smoking, not exercising, being overweight, drinking too much alcohol and eating an unhealthy diet.
That’s the takeaway from a new study that analyzed the impact of those behaviors on the chance of living a longer life free of diabetes, cardiovascular disease, cancer and other chronic diseases.
“We found that following a healthy lifestyle can substantially extend the years a person lives disease-free,” said senior author Dr. Frank Hu, who chairs the department of nutrition at Harvard T.H. Chan School of Public Health.
“In particular, women who practiced all five habits gained over 10 years of disease-free life, and men who did so gained almost eight years,” Hu said.
Additional data
The research is an extension of a study published last year that followed more than 38,000 men for 28 years and 73,000 women for 34 years.
That research found women who adopted all five healthy habits at age 50 lived 14 years longer than women who did not; men who were following all five lifestyle factors at age 50 lived 12 years longer than men who followed none.
This new study, published Wednesday in the journal BMJ, examined the same data to see how chronic disease affected the quality of life during the study period.
The research was designed to see how five healthy behaviors interacted to affect disease risk: never smoking, keeping a healthy BMI below 25, doing at least 30 minutes of physical activity each day, drinking alcohol moderately and eating a good quality diet.
Women who practiced four or five of the healthy habits over the next 20 to 30 years, Hu said, had an additional 10.6 years of disease-free living compared to women who adopted no lifestyle changes. When broken down by disease, the healthier women gained an average of eight years free of cancer, 10 years with no cardiovascular disease and 12 years without diabetes.
Men who practiced four to five healthy behaviors gained 7.6 years’ longer life expectancy; an average of six more years without cancer, almost nine more years free of heart issues and over 10 years without diabetes.
The results held true even after adjusting the data for age, ethnicity, family medical history and other potentially influential factors,
Not surprisingly, men who were heavy smokers — defined as 15 or more cigarettes a day — or obese men and women with a BMI of 30 or more had fewer years without disease.
What happened if a person was diagnosed with a disease during the study? The data showed half of people diagnosed with cancer lived an additional 23 years if they adopted four of five healthy practices. Among those who didn’t change, half only survived an additional 11 years. The same patterns were seen for both heart disease and diabetes.
“This is a positive health message because it means healthy lifestyle habits not only prolong life, but also improve the quality of life and reduce sufferings related to chronic diseases,” Hu said.
The study had some limitations, including that the data on adherence to the five lifestyle factors were all self-reported, making an outcome vulnerable to measurement errors.
What if you’ve not eliminated these five bad habits from your life?
“it is never too late to adopt these habits,” Hu said. “For smokers, the single most important thing that one should do is to stop smoking. For nonsmokers, eating a healthy diet and being physically active are important for keeping a healthy weight.”

Contributor: Sandee LaMotte-CNN Health